Negotiating Tip: Retreat Negotiations
Hello Good Negotiators,
In a perfect world, we would only have to negotiate when we have all the leverage and our opponents are desperate for the deal.
Reality tells us that this situation rarely occurs. Unrealistic expectations become some of the biggest mistakes negotiators can make.
Good negotiators recognize that to put a deal together they will have to make concessions, give up some items and retreat from positions they would like to hold on to.
Becoming adept at retreat negotiations can become an enhanced skill that few master, let alone consider.
Negotiating Tip: Retreat Negotiations
"Retreat with honor" was the strategy of the Nixon administration back during the final days of the Viet Nam war. Frankly it was a laudable strategy except that both President Nixon and the Viet Nam war were so unpopular that a common sense exit strategy became another war casualty.
Is there a place in our negotiations to retreat with honor?
Good negotiators think there is. They recognize that pre-negotiation planning includes the building of a 'retreat strategy'.
This retreat strategy includes the identification of two key things.
First, good negotiators identify items, elements and positions that are likely to come up during a negotiation upon which they could comfortably make concessions. While some may call it a retreat, good negotiators find it honorable and profitable.
It keeps the bargaining going, encourages concessions from our opponent and leads more quickly to a good deal settlement.
Second, good negotiators recognize the critical importance of allowing their negotiating opponent to experience a 'win' or realize a concession from their opponent (you).
We all know that negotiations are a 'give and take' exercise.
Few agreements are achieved when we do all the 'taking' and do none of the 'giving'.
Good negotiators use the question "What could make this work for you?" It encourages one's opponent to verbalize a request, think that a concession is forthcoming and remain positively engaged in the negotiations.
If you could concede just 20% of what you wanted in order to achieve 80%, would that be a good deal for you? Of course it would. And better yet, your opponent would walk away feeling much better about the transaction.
The core message of retreat negotiations is simply this....
Don't confine your pre-negotiating preparation to identifying only what you want from your opponent.
Expand that preparation to include items you know your opponent might be seeking from you and that you might be willing to concede.
Good negotiators put as much effort into identifying concessions they could make as they do to the concessions they demand.
Licensed Pennsylvania real estate broker for over 35 years, John Hamilton is an author, national speaker and educator who specializes in the art of negotiation. His most popular workshop is, “Negotiating: What’s Mine Is Mine, What’s Yours Is Negotiable” John was the 2002 President of the International Real Estate Educators Association and conducts over 125 seminars annually to business, banking, auctioneer, manufacturer representatives and real estate Boards/Associations. John's book KEEP Negotiating has become a desktop favorite for active real estate agents everywhere For past 15 years he has presented training program nationwide on sales, negotiating and motivational topics. Visit for a free report entitled the Top 12 Mistakes Negotiators Make.
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