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2009-11-25 16:46:24

Keys to Being a Good Negotiator


Hello Good Negotiators
It's not uncommon to encounter a negotiating opponent who doesn't know how to negotiate or is fearful that showing any flexibility will set a precedent that will be catastrophic later. Good negotiators can compensate for both these conditions, obtain a concession and enable their opponent to be comfortable with the settlement
Tip 11199: The Throw In
You're at the final stages of learning about a product or service that you want to purchase.  You feel confident that the price quoted is a good value, but as a 'negotiating junkie' you want to make every effort to improve the deal.  You ask for a concession.  You inquire 'is that's the best they can do?'   But you're getting a firm 'no' and a clear indication that that answer is inflexible.  It's as though they can't make any concession out of fear or inexperience.
Does that mean you've reached the best deal possible?  Are there any other options?  Consider seeking a 'throw in'.  That phrase might not be familiar to you or it might even convey the wrong impression.  When your opponent get's firm in their position, expand the items being negotiated to include something they could add to the deal, a extra they could provide or, better yet, throw in something not previously discussed.
By asking for something to be 'thrown in', your opponent can maintain their main item price but you get a valued bonus.  It preserves the deal for both and both negotiated effectively.
The secret to using this technique is to plan early as to what extra you might want thrown in.
For example: 
If the paint store owner won't give a better price on the paint, ask for free brushes and rollers.
If the clerk won't provide a discount on the suit, seek out a free shirt or tie.
If the vendor won't give a better price per month, demand free delivery or installation.
If the seller won't take your price offer, make your agreeing to that price conditioned on the seller giving your something of value.
Here's the best news, even if the throw in isn't for free, getting it at a major discount can be a winner too.
Furniture dealers commonly will hold firm on the price of the sofa but include end tables and lamps at 60-70% off.
As always, it's crucial to ask politely and with no harsh demanding language.  Couch it as a request for help, not an obligation to be demanded.
Good negotiators enter every negotiation with an idea of what they could ask their opponent to throw in.  It allows each side to walk away saying, "I made a good deal".
Licensed Pennsylvania real estate broker for over 35 years, John Hamilton is an author, national speaker and educator who specializes in the art of negotiation. His most popular workshop is, “Negotiating: What’s Mine Is Mine, What’s Yours Is Negotiable” John was the 2002 President of the International Real Estate Educators Association and conducts over 125 seminars annually to business, banking, auctioneer, manufacturer representatives and real estate Boards/Associations. John's book KEEP Negotiating has become a desktop favorite for active real estate agents everywhere For past 15 years he has presented training program nationwide on sales, negotiating and motivational topics. Visit for a free report entitled the Top 12 Mistakes Negotiators Make.

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