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2012-04-23 20:53:21

Are You Living Your Best Life Now?

Have you ever heard a tagline that caught your attention and literally can stop you dead in your tracks?  It can happen to any of us and it means…we better pay close attention!

The Oprah show was featuring several guests who were making a national commitment on television in front of thousands of people to begin this day to begin living their "best" life.

The words "living your best life" struck me in a way that made me think for a minute. Why would anyone wait not make a conscious decision to "living" their own best life after being on the earth for some time?  

I thought about this most of the day and it occurs to me that so many of us are caught up in the daily grind of making a dollar and keeping up with the many demands of family, career, social, church, school, etc. that more often than not, "WE" get lost in the shuffle.     In every case during the interviews, each person talked about how they neglected taking care of themselves to care for other "priorities" and were now suffering the consequences, and in the case of this particular program, the severe consequences of obesity and a deep personal issue of self care.  

In every interview, man or woman, it was evident that in each case, it was the denial of “personal time”.  The rude awakening came as each person underwent a comprehensive physical where reality began to sink in.  High blood pressure, excessive cholesterol counts, high blood sugar were just a few of the revelations of not taking care of self, and yet each of us have at one time or another made the same mistake.

It became apparent that the ONLY way to take true care of others is to begin by taking care of ourselves.  If we can't make time to exercise and practice healthy eating habits we rob ourselves of a quality of life that only we can provide. 

Starting this very minute, how would you rate your "taking care of self" factor on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being the best?  

If you are like most of us, you would be lucky to pull a 5 or a 6.  I'm sure there are critics out there saying that it would be easier to say than to do for those that have heavy burdens, but there is no "cheating" factor that plays well here.  You either take care of yourself well, or you don't.  At the end of the day, you are totally responsible for you. No one force feeds you doughnuts, or chains you to the sofa on weekends with a remote taped to your hand.  The reality is that no one will call you a champion when you to take control of your life and live your best day.

Why is it that women, in particular give so much of themselves that they carve into their very core of health and often personal happiness?  What makes us so willing to deny ourselves our best life so others might have theirs? 

It's time for your best life to kick in beginning with your own health, mental, physical and spiritual and financial…..and it begins this moment for you to choose to live your own best life.  

And yes, this will take a behavioral change.  This means setting boundaries to allow the time to take care of you with healthy food, a brisk walk, a fun lunch with an old friend, a few minutes of personal reading or just "sitting" time.   You will be of little value if you can't be around to help those that love you, or worse, having to have them take care of you. 

So begin by learning how to say "no" more than you say yes, and change the way your day plays out and find the time for a healthier happier you.  You will be much more attractive, much more fun to be around, and yes, happier!

It’s finally time for you!


Bio: Terri Murphy is a speaker, e-communication consultant/strategist and the author of 5 books, including her latest with Donald Trump. She is the founder of Terri Murphy Communications, Inc. and She is also the CIO of U. S. Learning in Memphis.  email: for more information visit



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