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October 11, 2018

Three Steps to RELAX and ATTRACT

Relaxing might sound like the exact wrong thing to do in today's market.

The Power of Relaxation

Usually, though, the contrarian has access to some ways of approaching matters that are not evident with the herd thinking. Many agents I see and talk with these days seem to have a lot of struggle and stress in their lives. It has been said that lack of being able to control is the most stressful thing for a human.  However, the reality is that we control little and all the awfulizing in the world doesn't change that but only serves to drain off energy that could be used productively in other ways.

Our little gremlin voice screams of fear when faced with the unknown or with a situation that has previously caused pain. That voice of fear is really our friend. He(she) doesn't want us to get hurt. So, what's a gal (or guy) to do?

The Three Steps

ACCEPTANCE Stop resisting. Like paddling a canoe against the current a lot of effort is expended to get nowhere. So STOP IT. Right now, take a look at your circumstances and accept it is how it is. It is how it is. Period. End of story. Take a deep breath and let yourself just see how it really is. It probably isn't as bad as you are making it out to be or fearing that it is. So, assess, where, exactly are you? What is working and what isn't? Yes, the market has changed and even those of us that have been in real estate for 20+ years have not seen markets just like these. It may be this way for a while. Just look at how it is and accept it.
 
MAKE GOOD CHOICES.  What is a "good" choice? It's a choice that makes you feel happy. Instead of struggling and trying to paddle harder, see where the flow is right now. Do the things that bring you joy. It is a proven fact of the Law of Attraction that like attracts like. When you are happy and joyful, you'll attract others. You probably won't attract the doomsayers and the difficult ones, because your vibrations won't match. That's ok, huh?  If you set all your worry aside and just this week do things with others that are fun and bring you joy, what's the worst that could happen? Why don't you try this: every day do what will make you happy and be happy with all you do. In every moment, you have the ability to shift your energy. Most of us are unconscious and let the default feelings and gremlin voice choose for us. Choose good.
 
PRACTICE SELF CARE.  One of my favorite quotes by Gandhi is, "The more I have to do, the longer I need to meditate." Personally, when I get in one of my overwhelm, struggling modes (yes, I am human and those times show up in my life too sometimes!), the first thing I will give up is exercise and my centering or meditation practice. There just isn't time! HA, what a copout.

Who is in charge of MY schedule? That crazy woman can make my life look and feel nuts! I have developed practices to bring me back to the grounded, centered place that feels and works much better. My coaches and friends are a big part of it. You are, too! Since I write a weekly newsletter, I get to examine where I am walking my talk. What a blessing. So, if you will put the gas in the gas tank, you've got more fuel to take you where you want to go. Have you been taking off a day a week? Doing small practices that nurture you (watching the sunset? Listing to the sound of your children's laughter? Hugging those you love and telling them you love them? Reading? Hiking?) What is it for you? Look at the coming week and schedule some time to be VERY SELFISH!
 
If you will consider these three areas this week, and look to see what you can do to lighten up, enjoy, be happy, I promise you a great week. Relax, there is a business to be had and the opportunities exist. I bet when you stop trying so hard, some easy new ways to attract business will appear, but you have to give up the struggle.

It's your choice!

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