Our rules protect us.  Rules create the standards and the quality of our life.  Rules can also limit our success and our enjoyment of our life.  I told a Client yesterday to lower her standards.  It was the wrong use of language.  I called her today to correct that and instead to say, soften your rules.

If you have strict rules of how you want things done, that can be a HUGE contributor to your success.  That’s right I said that can be extremely positive to your success. 

However if these rules get in the way of your success, if these rules bog you down and lead to overwhelm and frustration; if these rules are limiting your success and your enjoyment of life, then you need to examine them and soften some of them. 

It is a balance.  Some Clients I lead to have more rules and learn to be more committed to them.  Others, I lead to soften their rules.  Sometimes I offer both to the same person in the same coaching session because some of their rules are limiting them and the absence of other rules are costing them.

Life is wonderful series of situations in which we find balance.  And if you make one of your strictest rules to find joy, playfulness, fulfillment or the positive in every situation then life is full of situations in which we find balance.  And we find laughter and happiness in the process.