Every day I spend with Lily, my granddaughter, I learn. Recently we were driving in the car and Bub and I were having a spirited discussion, as we often do. All of a sudden Lily says, "STOP, I have a problem." Of course, we immediately gave her our attention thinking something was terribly amiss in the back seat. However, it seeemed her problem was with us in the front seat. She has misinterpreted our exuberance for conflict and wanted to resolve it. Where upon she gave us the steps she had learned when conflict occurs:

She said, "Grandma, you guys should not be yelling, this is the way that you fix it when you have a problem:

 You first say 'Stop, I have a problem'

The other person says 'I am listening'

You then say,'The problem is.........

What do you think the solution is?'

Ah, so simple through the eyes of a 5 year old......

Now if we only could get the rest of the world to use this formula,

perhaps some real progress could get made!