Jan. 31, 2007 - People who trust no one, are not to be trusted

It is really very true that the most distrustful people, are those who are not to be trusted.

I had a client this year that asked twenty "what if "questions for every single topic that came up in the real estate transaction.  She saw a problem behind every word, and an obstacle at every point of the way.  She called me late at night.  She called me almost every day on her lunch break.  This went on for months and months, long before they even started looking for a house and before they listed their home for sale.

The spouse was SO exceptionally nice that I persevered for their benefit.  Several times he begged me not to fire them because the wife was being so very difficult.

In the end, I had to sell the house twice.  Every time I turned around I discovered something wrong with the house, and it was obvious that the owner knew all along and was hoping no one would notice.  I brought in my handyman and fixed everything that was wrong and proceeded.  But the first buyer just didn't trust the seller because of this, and I had to sell the house a second time. 

Whenever I meet someone who doesn't trust others, I wonder whether or not I should trust them.  Had the situation not been so very difficult, I would have given them a break on the commission.  But this situation turned out to be the ONLY client this year who I did NOT give a break on the commission.  Some people just make things a lot harder than they need to be, and they only hurt themselves in the end by being that way.

Feb. 7, 2007 - re: People who trust no one, are not to be trusted

That is so true.

Some corollaries:
The guy who accuses you of cheating on him is probably cheating on you.
When someone criticizes something about someone you, it's often because they are insecure about the same thing theirself.

Feb. 7, 2007 - re: People who trust no one, are not to be trusted

So true Franz,

I wish I learned that when I was younger :)

Feb. 14, 2007 - re: People who trust no one, are not to be trusted

All too true Ardell, as well as very sad commentary on today's world.

In my experience I've found that people that are always looking over their shoulders and worrying that someone is going to take advantage of them often end up creating the very problems they're trying to avoid.

If someone finds it necessary to tell me "You can trust me to do what I say" that usually starts at least one red flag waving.

On the positive side however I also find that the person who just wants to find a nice, new home for them and their family usually end up with just what they're looking for and those kinds of people are pleasure to work with.

Mar. 26, 2007 - re: People who trust no one, are not to be trusted

I feel your pain and have had similar experiences. It's funny how your gut is almost always right yet, you don't listen and go with your head. Then you find the hard way that your gut was right all along.

Just imagine how much attention you gave them that you could have been giving the reasonable, level-headed, realistic and cool clients that actually deserved your attention?

Mar. 26, 2007 - re: People who trust no one, are not to be trusted

Danilo,

I'm a sucker though, for a woman with a hard to handle husband.  Pretty sure I'll be helping them every time.